But there’s another reason, too, and one that’s at least as important to me. For the average person who’s most only seen the “perfect,” nearly invisible little pussies in Playboy-type glamour magazines, a big clit (or long labia, or uneven labia, or meaty labia, or a puffy mons, or dark purple labia, or…) can be utterly shocking. I’m more than fine being the one to shock you (I love it, frankly), but I also want to educate you a little, too. And clearly you all want to educate yourself about women with big clits, too. So many questions!
Why do I want to be the one to shock and educate? Well, I’m a closet exhibitionist (complicated, I know). But I also know that there are other women out there with big clits who are sad, embarrassed, stressed, and shy about that part of their bodies. They’ve seen the perfect Playboy pusses, too, you know, and they don’t recognize themselves in those pictorials. And they’re afraid no one else will, either. Some of them have never shown themselves to anyone out of shame, and some have had ignorant people who made them feel like freaks (and not in a good way). So I love to show my big clit off and answer questions to maybe make them less of a big deal both to the people who have big clits and the people who might see them someday.
That doesn’t mean big clits are going to stop being shocking. Let’s face it, women with big clits are not so common that’s it’s ever going to be like, “Eh, you have one slightly bigger boob, so what.” And I’m fine with that. I don’t want to ever want to stop shocking people. I can’t tell you how incredibly exciting it is to literally make someone’s jaw drop the first time they see me naked. But I do want to make other women with big clits understand that that jaw-dropping can be a good thing (a very good thing!) and maybe be as proud of their clits as I am of mine. I also want people who might see them to have a little bit of an idea what’s going on so they don’t say or do something stupid.
So I put together a big clit FAQ. I can’t claim to speak for all women with big clits, of course, but I have gotten all of these questions many, many times. Some of them only apply to edge cases like mine, where people know that I pump, and because I’m a bodybuilder, and because I show mine off all over the place and do porn. But I bet every woman with a big clit whose ever shown anyone has heard some of these…
1. Your clit is so big! Why is your clit so big?
Yes, it’s big! Why? Just like cocks (and boobs and labia and noses and feet), clits come in all sizes and shapes. I have pumped and stretched my clit a lot, too, and that helps some, though not as much as people think. It’s pretty much always been on the big side, and it got bigger when I hit puberty. And that’s totally cool I love that it is big, and so do all my partners. At this point, if it wasn’t big, I would do everything possible to make it that way! (More on this later.)
2. Does your big clit make you horny all the time?
Nope. It just helps me enjoy myself when I am horny. I don’t think I even have a particularly high sex drive, honestly. I think and write and blog about sex and make porn all the time, but I can go without actually *having* sex for quite a while without losing my mind. Having a big clit doesn’t mean you are into sex any more than having big boobs means you are nymphomaniac (something everyone seemed to believe when I was a kid).
3. Seriously, though; you must be stimulated all the time with your clit sticking out like that, no?
Nope! It gets way smaller when I am not aroused and I don’t even notice it. I’ve had a long time to get used to it, too!
4. How can you walk around without your big clit rubbing on your clothes? Can you wear pants? You must get an orgasm just from walking!
I wish! I mean, it would be really, really inconvenient, but it would be damned sexy if it could happen once in a while under sexy, non-awkward conditions. But, no, my clit is only erect when I am excited; most of the rest of the time the head is mostly inside the hood, like an uncut cock. And it’s really only the super-erect, full-on clitty hard-on Rikochanpornstar readers know and love after lots and lots of stimulation. I very rarely spontaneously get a serious lady-boner without serious stimulation. There was that one time in the sauna with that sexy trainer at the gym, though…
5. But, seriously, how do you keep from playing with yourself all the time?
Well, I don’t know. It’s smaller than the average cock. How do guys with cocks keep their hands off them? Or *do* they? Hmm…
6. Are bigger clits more sensitive, and do big clits mean better sex and bigger orgasms?
Honestly, there’s no way I can answer that. I have nothing to compare it with! I can only tell you that I have amazing orgasms that go on and on and on. But I think that’s as much about having clever partners I trust and love and am excited by who are eager to please me as because of my big clit. Furthermore, what I have read seems to say that all clits have more or less the same number of nerve endings, so even little tiny clits should feel as good as my big one! I can tell you that the little clits I have licked seem just as sensitive as the big ones—maybe even more so! On the other hand, mine is easier to stimulate in just about every sex position, so there’s that…
7. I bet no one ever has trouble finding your clit!
Yes, very clever. It can actually be hard to convince them to pay attention to other bits, though!
8. That’s not a clit! That’s a little penis!
No, I’m pretty sure a gynecologist would have told me. On the other hand, clits and penises are very, very similar. It’s just more obvious when a clit is closer to cock size, like mine is.
9. That’s bigger than my penis!
No it isn’t! I mean, probably not. But, either way, it’s cool. I have lot of fans and friends with micropenises, which I think are crazy sexy, by the way. TBH, I’ve never played with one, but I find the idea and look of them (lots of my friends send me pictures and videos of their microdicks) very, very exciting. None of them have ever actually turned out to be smaller than my clit when erect though, although some of them are very, very small! Someday I will make a big clit versus micropenis video!
10. You are a hermaphrodite.
Uh, no. I don’t have a penis. I have a clit. They are not the same thing, although they are similar. You can educate yourself on the difference, but there is one.
11. You are intersexed.
Nope. I have intersexed friends (sexy!). Their bodies are different from mine. I really just have a big clit.
12. You are a post-op transsexual.
Again, no. I think I would know about that. People often think I am trans, but I have periods, ovaries, a uterus, the whole glorious, messy thing. But, just for the record, let me say that the only annoying thing about people insisting I am a trans person is that they are trying to define me or are accusing me of lying about my biology for some reason. I’m totally not offended by being identified as trans! Some of the sexiest people in the world are trans. But I am a CIS woman who is exploring what “woman” means with my bodybuilding.
13. You are a man.
No. Not in terms of biology or gender. You’re probably confused about the distinction there, if you insist I’m a man.
14. You’re manly/not feminine.
That’s stupid. People who say that are stupid. Those words are meaningless, and anyone who uses them in that way is a narrow-minded and ignorant. What they are saying, although they not clever enough to know it, is: “You don’t fit my idea of what a woman should be like.” Who cares about the opinion of someone that clueless and that casually hostile? Not me. Anyone who ever says “that’s not feminine,”—whether it’s about a clit size, body shape, muscle size, fatness, thinness, or whatever—loses *all* respect in my eyes. Seriously, it’s one of the dumbest things you can say.
15. How can I make my clit like yours?
Pumping can help, but only so much. Even if you imagine it will double the size of your clit (it probably won’t) if you have a tiny one it will only be tiny times two. If your bean is really small, you will have to resort to hormones if you want it to really grow. I have friends who have had very good luck with them, but beyond that I can’t tell you any more about that method. You’ll have to do your own research, but there a plenty of forums for that. Some of the methods are DIY and legally sketchy, and some are prescribed by doctors (as libido treatments), and both seem to work.
16. I know you take the steroids. Women with big clits all take the steroids. Admit it! Tell me about the steroids! Confess!
You really don’t know anything about me. I’ve had a big clit since before I ever touched a weight, and I have the chubby out-of-shape big clit pics to prove it—and I’m hardly much of a bodybuilder now, either. That said, I’m totally not against steroids or any other form of body modification. I think it’s all great. People should have complete autonomy over their bodies, and they should be proud of whatever shape they have naturally, or whatever shape they choose for themselves.
Yes, steroids can pretty clearly make clits bigger, though not all big clits come from steroids and not all of the biggest FBBs have big clits, either. And, seriously, even if I were an expert in illegal drugs, do you think I would talk to you about them on Facebook, over email, on Twitter, etc? That would be a really good way to go to jail. If I suddenly become a super-jacked bodybuilder over the course of a few months, I will definitely expect people to speculate about what I took, but I still wouldn’t talk about it online!
But in any case, what difference does it make why women with big clits have them? Is someone whose clitoral hypertrophy was the result of steroids less pure? Less sexy? Less “real?” No way! Big clits are awesome, no matter why they are big, through genetics, chemicals, surgery…whatever.
17. Are You/Have You Ever Been Embarrassed by Your Big Clit?
Not really. I honestly didn’t realize how much bigger it was than the average until I met someone who was very, very happy to see it and told me so. Ever since then, most of the people who have seen it have known ahead of time what they were going to see, and they have all been very excited to see it, so that’s pretty good for my ego.
I have occasionally been a little nervous about how someone might react to it when seeing it for the first time. Occasionally a new doctor will see it, or I will be in a situation where someone who doesn’t know about my porn life might see it (sauna, onsen, skinny dipping, whatever), for example.
But that is almost never an issue. Doctors rarely mention it. One woman doctor said: “Your clitoris is big! It hasn’t suddenly changed size, has it, because that might be a problem.” When I said, no, she said, “Well then, I guess you are just lucky!” That made me very happy. Honestly, I think she was more impressed by how hard my pecs were when she did my breast exam. Other people mostly make a point of not looking at your pussy, generally, but I have completely lasered off my pubes, so sometimes I have seen people noticing my pussy because of that. But none of them have ever said anything about my big clit, although a few have mentioned the hairlessness.
18. Have you ever thought about having your big clit reduced?
No! Nonono! No! Just…no.
Like I said, I would never judge anyone for modifying their body, but I personally can’t ever see wanting to have less of this very good thing. And I wouldn’t do something so drastic to please anyone else.
Breast augmentation, on the other hand, I have considered, though I think having a big clit is actually probably less traumatic than having big boobs, honestly, because big boobs are out there *all the time*, and people stare at them *all the time* and they make weird judgments about them *all the time*, too! (I think I probably stare at them more than I should, honestly. I try very hard not to, but I do love them.)
I’m totally open about my big clit here on my blog, but in my day to day life it’s totally hidden, like a superhero’s secret identity. I get to decide who gets let in on the secret, unlike people with big boobs. Big boobs are like the Tony Starks of the superhero world, living life out and proud. Big clits are more the Kamala Khans, also crazy awesome, but secret.
19. How can I date women with big clits like yours?
I have mixed feelings about this question. On the one hand, people have their fetishes and preferences, and I can’t fault anyone for that. I personally have a *huge* weakness for redheads and big boobs. But, on the other hand, the old-fashioned progressive in me thinks maybe you shouldn’t really be picking your partners based on some physical characteristic. I mean, yes, I totally also want to play with a woman with a big clit, but dating, and having a relationship…that’s a different thing, right? “I only want to date women with big clits” sounds like “I only want to date Asians,” which, to me, is kind of weird and icky, honestly.
If you really, really, really only want to date/fuck/go out with women with big clits, you have to start with the clit first, though, I guess. The only answer I can think of is to go to a site like Fetlife (friend me there!) and search for women whose pictures show off their big clits, and go from there. But while that’s probably a good way to find sex/sessions/scenes, I doubt it’s a great way to find a girlfriend personally. Maybe I’m just old fashioned, though.
You could try and date a serious female bodybuilder and hope she has a big clit, but, seriously, if that’s the only reason you’re dating her, that’s kind of sad, to me, and chances are a woman in that kind of amazing condition has plenty of men to choose from and may not be interested in someone who only wants her for her clit!
If you just want to play with a big clit to live out your fantasy, you’d be far better off finding a big-clit session provider, in my opinion. To be completely transparent, these are women with big clits (often a bodybuilder) who will have some sort of sexual encounter with you. For money. There are entire websites dedicated to organizing these things.
Your session might be full on penetration, or it might just be a wrestling match in which she pins you and her panty-clad big clit just happens to get jammed up against your mouth. Or it might be somewhere in between. It all depends on what you agree on ahead of time (and what you pay for). Depending on what happens and where you live, it might be illegal, but I personally don’t think there is anything wrong with sex work as a job. And I think that for most people it might be their best chance of experiencing a large clit at least once in their lives.
20. Can I do a clit worship session with you? I’ll pay!
I don’t do sessions for the moment, sorry. I’m totally not against the idea, and I don’t in any way look down on session providers, though. I’m just not outgoing and brave enough, that’s all. If I thought I could enjoy it and do a good job, I’d totally be a session girl!
21. Can I worship your clit?
I am very, very flattered that you asked, but probably not, sorry! Unless you are a woman who wants to shoot movies with me, your chances aren’t good. You can support me and my movies, though, and worship my clit virtually!
22. Will you do a photoshoot/video with me?
The chances are small but not zero. I only work with people who know what they are doing with pics and clips I can see that I also like. I don’t do GWC shoots. I’m not at all interested in having sex with guys in a shoot. Girls, sure, if it’s the right girl. I will do TFC. I always bring a guy with me to the shoot.