Took the day off yesterday to shoot some video with a friend, who I’ll call M. What a great day: I had my first shibari experience, but that wasn’t the biggest first. Much bigger was how much force my friend (who is a small—though busty—Japanese woman) used on me, and how much I liked it. I’ve never had anyone pinch my nipples or slap my clit or ass that hard before! I guess that’s what happens if you convince a domme friend to work in your video and she decides you aren’t making enough noise. It hurt so much, but I was surprised how much I liked it–first time I’ve ever really felt like that. Bondage I decided I loved a while ago. But this was new to me. I can’t remember ever squirting more, or feeling more exhausted and satisfied at the end of a shoot—not that I’ve done many shoots, but, still…
M said that despite being Japanese (and a domme), she wasn’t a shibari pro. “Shocking, right?” This made me and Kraka laugh. There are funny stereotypes out that there about Japanese women because of all the porn that is most Americans’ only exposure to them—eating shit, soap-fucking, fucking octopuses, etc. A ridiculous number of people assume that Japanese women must be experts at all of them. The even funnier thing is that despite M’s disclaimer, she proceeded to tie me up in a very nice harness. I guess it was pretty simple rope work, but I thought it looked sexy, and it definitely felt sexy to wear. I’ve got a pro-shibari shoot I’ve been trying to schedule for a while now, and this made me super eager to get the details worked out!
M was using the new shibari ropes that Kraka had picked up for the shoot at Purple Passion/DV8, where he was again helped by the super-cool Klawdya, who I need to get into the store to meet—partly because I’m going to commission her to make me a latex mask (she’s Purple Passion’s “latex maven”), and partly just because. Klawdya describes herself as “an independent curator, artist, Alt Sex and Spirituality educator, Kink Rights Advocate, and Occultist,” among many other things. She recently spoke about her first latex fashion show at Red Umbrella Diaries, which I once again stupidly missed!
Last time Kraka met her, she helped him pick out the anal toys I used in my first anal gape shot. This time she helped him pick out a hot bit gag that I really kind of love. It’s uncomfortable in a very comfortable way, if that makes sense. I love it—I think it might be my gateway bondage toy. I’m definitely seeing more bondage gear in my future! Kraka had been going to get a big ball gag, but she told him that 1) if it’s for a photoshoot I might not like it because it might make me look like I have a big double chin (and I’m already a little chubby) and 2) that people new to gags probably wouldn’t be able to tolerate a big ball for a whole afternoon of video.
And it was a whole afternoon of video (and photos, as you can see). We did three little scenes. One has me standing on my corner window sill, hands cuffed to a bar above my head as M plays with my nipples and pussy and the pumps my nipples and my big clit until I’m so excited that the juices just run down my leg and puddle on the window ledge and floor. Dommes pump longer and harder than husbands, it turns out! Yum, and ouch! My poor clitty was still swollen and sensitive six hours later when I fucked Kraka later that night after waking up from a coma-like nap. (And, FYI, post-domme sex is very nice.)
In the next scene, I’m sitting in a chair as M plays with my nipples. That was the shot where she felt like I was being a little too passive, and she mistreated my nipples and breasts most deliciously. I haven’t seen the video yet, but Kraka (who was shooting) tells me that was the hottest part of the shoot. I’m a little worried about the camera work, as Kraka started fingering me our of the shot, but I guess I won’t complain if it looks a little shaky.
In the final scene, we were in the kitchen, with me bent over a chair as M fucked me good and hard with my purple jelly dildo and various other toys. I’m not sure what all she was doing to me, but at one point she wanted to bring the intensity up again, so she started whacking my thighs with the dildo like it was a flogger or something. She hit my clit so hard that I either squealed or screamed (I’ll have to watch the video to decide which) and, again it led to tremendous messy gushing. She caught my squirting into a glass measuring cup, which she poured out into two wine glasses for us… That’s part of why I want to work with lots of people–that’s an idea I never would have had, on my own.
For the record, some Japanese stereotypes may have a basis in truth. In that scene, the toughest part wasn’t being smacked on the thighs or clit, wearing a very tight bit gag, being tied bent over to a chair in an awkward position (which is a great leg workout, by the way), or being harshly fucked with a dildo (ok, that part isn’t tough at all). It was being forced to stand in my own mess! We cut a couple times to fix the lights, and I pleaded with M to clean up the puddle I was standing in. She just laughed! Standing in my mess was the hardest part. Her telling me no was maybe the sexiest.
Anyhow, it was great—my first time with a little bit of shibari, my first time having a domme show me just a little (a very little, I’m sure) of what she can do, and my second time working with girls. It was also our first time actually “producing” a video. It was probably a disaster in terms of quality, but that’s ok: it was a learning experiment and it was super fun. Plus, my fans don’t seem to mind that my stuff is super amateur looking, luckily. Overall it was a great experience. I’ll be working on the video soon!
In the meanwhile, I’m looking forward to setting up another shoot, maybe in October. This time I think I’m going to see if I can find a woman to really fuck me and get fucked. I’ve loved my few sessions with women and toys, but for my next video I want actual sex: pussy-licking, clit-sucking, 69ing, finger-stroking-gspot, mouth-on-nipple sex with a girl.
Any takers for my first time? 🙂
PS: Click on my pics for bigger versions. And stay tuned for some bit-gag pics!